Something to take a look at!
“Thou didst divide the sea by thy strength: Thou brakest the heads of the dragons in the waters. Thou brakest the heads of leviathan in pieces, And gavest him to be meat to the people inhabiting the wilderness”. (Psalms 74:13-14)
In the book of Matthew, chapter 10 verses 35-38, I came across some profound information that I believe will be very helpful to anyone who may be struggling with idolization or obsessive-emotion attachment issues. This information will also be helpful to individuals who may be experiencing confusion and distress from relationships within their families because of unrealistic expectations.
Matthew writes according to what Jesus taught “He who loves their father or mother more than me is not worthy of me”. Then it goes on to say whoever loves his son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me”. What blew me away was when he said in (Matthew 10:36) “A man’s enemy will be members of his own household. Now, I am thinking to myself “these are supposed to be the closest people to you and yet they cause the most grief in our lives.
In the book of St. Luke, the word of God tells us this “From now on, five in the household will be divided, three against two and two against three. They will be divided, father against son, mother against daughter and daughter against mother…” (Luke 12:52-53”). “Mercy Jesus” Is this not what is going on in the world now? Actually, this has been going on for quite some time, but I am now actually seeing this with my own eyes in many families in these days. What I realized is the enemy (leviathan spirit) is having a good time with people and using them as puppets to destroy the family. Although the word of God warns us of this, we can pray to God to correct this and remove these demonic forces from our families. (Psalms 74:13-14)
(Please read Micah 7:1-6, in these passages it confirms what St. Matthew and St. Luke are talking about. You will also find within these passages of Micah 7:7-13; confession and comfort; and in Micah 7:14-20 – God shows his compassion on his people.)
How do you know if you fall into this category of possibly being guilty of idolizing of a loved one? I would suggest that you search your heart to see if you are constantly feeling hurt or may believe that you have been experiencing betrayal from those whom you have a cleaving attachment to. If you inquired with those individuals about how you’re feeling and they do not acknowledge or believe they are inflicting negative behaviors towards you, then it’s maybe something going on within you or either they are not “feeling you” as deeply as you feel towards them.
Many individuals who get too emotionally attached to anyone can find themselves with a broken spirit. This happens when we put “expectations” on people and then when they do not come through as we hoped, we become disappointed feeling hurt and our emotions become bruised. We have to evaluate the situation and ask God to heal us and deliver us from the emotional obsession. We need to focus our energy on God and not the individuals.
What I am realizing and understanding that we humans are flawed, not because God created us that way, but it is from the sin we have encapsulated into our lives over the years. We need to understand that loving the creation more than the creator will cause major issues. God tells us this in Matthew and Luke mentioned above. God also lets us know in his word that he is a jealous God. “For the Lord your God is a consuming fire, even a jealous God. “Thou shalt not bow down thyself unto them, nor serve them: for I the Lord thy God am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children unto the third and fourth generation of them that hate me”. (Deuteronomy 4:24)
What I am suggesting in this blog, is we need to reevaluate our relationship priorities and then ask for forgiveness, healing and deliverance. Our God is gracious and want us to be happy. He wants us to seek him for this joy as he is the only one who can give it to us. Not another human… only God. He can restore families according to his will. If he does not repair the relationships, there may be something that we need to learn from it and God will reveal that to us also.
As always, I write these things for HIS GLORY and I welcome your comments and thoughts on these issues.